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monster · 08-22-2012, 06:58 PM

I tend to friend the teenagers and then put them on "quiet" ....So I can see if I need to and be blissfully unaware otherwise. It sounds like the standard teenage crap from when I was one, it's just now more instantly in your face. your advice is sound IMO, but it may become awkward for your son. It's nice when the teens see you as a go-to person, and I think you gave sound advice to the ex GF re your son, but if it were me, I think at this point I'd say to her "I care about you and want to help you but I can't be impartial right now and It's probably better for A if I we cool it". Unless she has absolutely no-one else. But I have made the mistake in the past of trying so hard to be impartial and fair that I have ended up not defending my kids as much as a mama bear should.

08-22-2012, 06:58 PM	#2
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	I tend to friend the teenagers and then put them on "quiet" ....So I can see if I need to and be blissfully unaware otherwise. It sounds like the standard teenage crap from when I was one, it's just now more instantly in your face. your advice is sound IMO, but it may become awkward for your son. It's nice when the teens see you as a go-to person, and I think you gave sound advice to the ex GF re your son, but if it were me, I think at this point I'd say to her "I care about you and want to help you but I can't be impartial right now and It's probably better for A if I we cool it". Unless she has absolutely no-one else. But I have made the mistake in the past of trying so hard to be impartial and fair that I have ended up not defending my kids as much as a mama bear should. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart