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Originally Posted by Undertoad
J announced that she's moving out. She's tired of being mad at me all the time. We're too different, she says, and she doesn't want to ask me to change because that's not fair.
We are lucky in that we never actually got married. Perhaps there was an inkling in us that it wasn't really exactly right. But that's not it.
I'm done with relationships for a while. Ah, you know, maybe four-five months until I get my shit together. Although maybe I shouldn't get my shit together because when we started it appeared that I had my shit together and that fake front appearance is attractive. Until they find the truth is you don't have your shit together and then they can just be mad at you all the time.
This is horrible, but I feel like at least I have some experience at it.
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I read all this. I read all the posts following too. I re-read this one a couple more times. I'm still... I'm still a bit stunned. Not because I'm surprised this happened or because I saw it coming or anything like that, I'm stunned because I expect things to work well, and when they don't, there's a stop, and a period of re-evaluation. Obviously, I didn't see anything like this coming.
But that ignorance extends far enough to for me to know that I don't know enough to be "happy" or "sad" or excited or relieved or concerned or what... I just don't know. I, too, have some experience at it and my experience included all those reactions and more. Especially the horrible part, UT. I'm really sorry, brother.
tl;dr --> I'm sorry to hear this sad news.