[Aliantha]

Aden has been dating his now 15 yr old g/f since she was 14 yrs old. They're still dating after more than 12 months and to my knowledge, and I feel pretty certain they're not lying to me, they haven't done more than snogging and maybe a bit of touchy feely stuff. I've asked them both point blank to respect my wishes about this issue and have spent quite a lot of time talking to them both together about the consequences of going too far with stuff like that.

I don't think it matters where you are. If the girl and boy are respectful to each other, and to their families, then no one's reputation should be harmed. If one of them starts blabbing about private stuff that happens between them, then firstly, there's not enough respect between them, and secondly, they definitely don't have the maturity to handle that sort of thing.

You have to make your own call when you're a parent, and I think it differs from kid to kid, and who their intended date is etc. You have to weigh up all the variables, and not just base your decision on what others will think IMO.