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Has anyone else noticed that it seems like Stacyv and Arsen vs. The Cellar now?

Clever move...clouding the issues by changing the focus. Classic.

Arsen, you can't be married to someone and in love with someone else. Won't work. I know. That (and the associated alcoholism from subconsciously trying to kill the turmoil in my head) was what ended my first marriage.

With the help of a good woman, a lack of booze, and quite a lot of psychotherapy for both of us, my second marriage is much more successful and fulfilling, and I'm not running around tearing myself up inside about a relationship that never was meant to be.

Focus on what you have, not what you "lost". I guarantee you that things will improve.