I think I misunderstood you. I was defending the place of naptime in the life of a parent. Sorry.
I think parents often make assumptions about what is bothering a child; I've done it myself on more than on occasion. Yeah, to tell a child what is wrong with them rather than to let them tell you is an invalidation of their feelings, whether intentional or not. The best I can really do when I catch myself doing it is to stop, apologise to my son, ask him what is wrong, and then help him correct it.