what are ya talking about? so many man like larger women, why are woman so obsessed about this? its totally irational b.. wait a minute.
*research*
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Hot or not? Men agree on the answer. Women don't.
There is much more consensus among men about whom they find attractive than there is among women, according to a new study by Wake Forest University psychologist Dustin Wood.
The study, co-authored by Claudia Brumbaugh of Queens College, appears in the June issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
"Men agree a lot more about who they find attractive and unattractive than women agree about who they find attractive and unattractive," says Wood, assistant professor of psychology. "This study shows we can quantify the extent to which men agree about which women are attractive and vice versa."
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...that's why.
women are obsessed about this because it is actually
completely rational, given that society favors attractiveness (in all people), but the standards of what counts as attractive in women are a lot more unanimous.
sure both me and Ali can have large fat bellies (i am guessing), but the price she pays for loosing the globally admired guitar shape is a lot bigger then the price i am paying for not having a six pack... because for every man whose going to put that aside and think she's hot for having large breasts (that usually acompany big women) or any other trait, a lot more women are going to look past my belly and think i'm hot for being tall or because of any other trait.
and that... has to suck. i know i sound like an asshole most of the time, but you really have my compassion there - i imagine its like being the only suspect whose a minority member in a police investigation - it might not be your fault but you know your screwed... except that there's someone going over the suspects whenever a man's head turns to another women rather then you.
and i know it can be a genetic nightmare to change: i can tell you that in the boot camp i remember doing the exact same runs other guys are doing, eating the exact same meals with the exact same portions, and while some of them came in with a beer belly that disapeared, and others develop six packs, i barely lost anything, even in an environment where my bad habits have no room of expression. frustrating as hell.
but it ain't no skin color you can raise as a flag, because while in reality different people have to make an extremely different level of affort to achieve the same results, it its not impossible; i did loose the larger portion of my weight eventually (and gained it back since), and i know people who where more overweight then me that became bony little sticks. and that's what makes it all the more both better and worst - it gives you hope, but it also makes it your own fault.
now you can do what i saw sundae do in another thread and tell yourself there's something wrong with those man - small dicks, stupid, bad breath, whatever. you can tell yourself that there's something wrong with those other women. stuff like that would probably make you feel better, but the reality is its neither, and its not something wrong with society either - that's just a bunch of people attracted to a bunch of people.
its something that society deemed unattractive - because of your gender almost unanimously - that you have, that is technically your fault, and a fucking nightmare to change.
and all the expectations of fairness in the world aren't going to make that fair.
p.s.
yea i just sort of jumped to the point where this sort of threads usually lead. just imagine people staring talking about why society thinks this or that are important and me answering them with this post.