[Aliantha]

My husband is the complete opposite of any other man I was ever seriously involved with before. It's working pretty well.

If I'd applied what I thought was my criteria I'd still be getting involved with dickheads.

I think when you find the person you are meant to be with or who you fit best with or whatever euphemism you want to use for a successful relationship, you start to realise that what you thought you wanted or needed maybe wasn't that important after all.

There's really no way to logically explain the process other than to say that when the dust settles and you're out of the whirlwind stage, it becomes a choice. I honestly believe that you choose to love someone because they're the best fit for you, and if they choose you back, then you have something special. You just have to keep choosing each other through good times and bad. When you stop deciding to choose your partner, it's all over red rover.

That's why when some couples break up, one is usually left saying, 'I never saw it coming', because the other person simply stopped choosing their partner but they forgot to say anything till it was too late.