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i'll start - as i've receantly learned a new one:
test: a few good dates in when things are more open and comfortable, find a context by which to ask if she has done mistakes in how she treated her partners in previous relationships.
what's the answer i'm looking for: yes i have.
why: unless they never had any relationships, everyone has done so at some point, and if there's anything i learned from my last painful relationship is that if someone can't admit to it and has to be rightous all the time, they will be right as they go on wronging you. the capacity for people to judge their own action is critical for both growing and adapting to others, and i'm not going with someone who doesn't have that capacity ever again (well, if i am honest with myself i should add "unless she's too hot for my brain to work").
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