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Originally posted by Brigliadore
Now when it comes to telling to other person about something like that I have to say it depends on the situation. If you did get drunk (or something else that alters you ability to say no) and you TRULY regretted what you did after and you have a stable and loving relationship with your partner, I say don't tell them (if you can stand the guilt as Sun_Sparkz pointed out). Learn from your mistake, make sure to never put yourself in that position again and try and be the best partner you can for the person you are with. I know the pain it causes to be told, and in my case I was glad he told me as I wouldn't have wanted to marry him only to find out this was a pattern and that he didn't love me (which I believe would have been the case). But if you truly love the person you are with then I say don't tell them and yes even lie to protect them.
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The only problem with that is that if something was contracted (disease) or conceived (getting pregnant) by that drunken union...well I'm thinking at SOME point the truth has to be revealed.
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