[classicman]

IMO, Jim was being kind. Seems like that is a foreign concept for some to grasp.
Honest need not only be brutal. There can be understanding and acceptance as well.
Whatever works for you, for him for whomever.
As one who didn't really post here, from the outside it did seem like a cumulative effort to attack, for lack of a better word.

Jim, do your thing man. I, for one, am proud of you trying to recognize your faults/weaknesses/whatever and attempting to improve yourself.