In this post
http://cellar.org/showpost.php?p=755943&postcount=28, ironsolid is called Dana. I think ironsolid is the mom?
Do not buy/bring home the unhealthy snacks, that is obvious.
Can you buy fruit and veg that he can eat in unlimited quantities? I didn't see any in the day's menu that you posted. Did he not have dinner that day?
Fruit is expensive. but so are cigarettes*. Shop at Aldi if you can. their fruit is cheap. Bananas are pretty good value and sweet. And pre-prepared baby carrots are pretty inexpensive. raisins are almost like candy. Problem is they can stick in the teeth and cause dental problems like candy.
my kids are swimmers so they eat a lot of carbs and my view may be skewed, but that seems a high protein to carb ratio. And I'd really like to see lots more fruit and veg in there, that's very fillling. What does he have to drink?
Talk to a doctor or a health professional about it if you can. Does the school have a psychologist you can talk to? I also suspect it is compensation for something or comfort eating. Or maybe his body is missing some vitamin/mineral and "telling him' to eat in search of that thing. Can you give him milk/cereal for breakfast? Choose the non-sugar coated cereal. Walmart sells really cheap own brand rice Crisppies, Kroger is best for own-brand Cheerios and Cornflakes if you have them. Aldi is also excellnt value for these products. Where do you live?
And don't criticize his dad. Hearing bad things about their parents does nothing but harm childrem. The need you to be their heroes.
Why not tell him you need him to help dad get heathier by taking dad out for a run and leading by example eating healthy snacks and balanced meals. if you have him tell dad off for eating unhealthy things, it will make it harder for him to do them himself.
You're 24 and your children are 9, 5, 5 and 3 and one had CP. He's a middle child and you clearly have a lot to cope with. He may just need more cuddle time, more supervision, more explanation.
What is he interested in? Can you reward "no theiving" days in some way?
*yeah, i know, not my place to judge..... I never did know my place....