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Originally posted by warch
For me love isnt about the worth of "having", its about compassion, disillusion, trust, respect, and imperfection. You know, the real shit. A deep love can withstand and deepen through the guaranteed horrible circumstances, pain and petty jealousy, too.
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I agree with that. People aren't possessions, much as we may think of them that way subconsciously (and I think we all do that...."MY man," "MY woman," "MY child"). It seems to me that people are too often willing to just walk away when they find that "THEIR" person isn't the paragon that they were painted as in the first flush of love....the truth is, people have aggravating habits...people in love DO disagree; they DO argue and fight over things that won't be important in five years but seem important at the moment. Trust, respect, compassion...you said it all right there. If you have those three things, I think you can get through anything, if you're willing to work at it and not just walk away when things get tough. Because they do get tough sometimes, no matter how great a couple is together.
((I guess that's kind of why I admire my friend who's going through this trouble with her husband (the one I posted about on "Need advice for a friend..." She loves her husband, and she really wants things to be the way they were before, and she's willing to work her ass off to see it happen, rather than just take the easy road and walk away from the problem. She understands that marriage is, barring physical abuse and extreme mental or emotional abuse (I specify "extreme" because what may be mental/emotional abuse for one may be something another person would blow off), for better or for worse, and that things aren't always easy. But she's counting on love and determination to pull them through. My fingers are crossed for her.))
Sidhe