[OnyxCougar]

Man. I have so many problems with some of the stuff on this page.... (the one linked...)

What the Catechism of the Catholic Church says on "Contraception:"
2370. "Periodic continence, that is, the methods of birth regulation based on self-observation and the use of infertile periods, is in conformity with the objective criteria of morality. [HV 16.] These methods respect the bodies of the spouses, encourage tenderness between them, and favor the education of an authentic freedom. In contrast, 'every action which, whether in anticipation of the conjugal act, or in its accomplishment, or in the development of its natural consequences, proposes, whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible' is intrinsically evil. [HV 14.] Thus the innate language that expresses the total reciprocal self-giving of husband and wife is overlaid, through contraception, by an objectively contradictory language, namely, that of not giving oneself totally to the other. This leads not only to a positive refusal to be open to life but also to a falsification of the inner truth of conjugal love, which is called upon to give itself in personal totality.... The difference, both anthropological and moral, between contraception and recourse to the rhythm of the cycle . . . involves in the final analysis two irreconcilable concepts of the human person and of human sexuality.[FC 32.]"

Uh...what?

OK....this what I think it means:

It's not ok to use contraception.
unless it's by the rhythm method.

Because using contraception isn't giving oneself totally to the other.
...Except that if you use the rhythm method, you can't have sex how many days a month? Isn't that not giving oneself totally to the other? And what if (like me) the female has PCOS, or other disorder that throws off the cycle, to the point that I never know when I'll have one? That mean I can't have marital sex if I don't want kids?

But if I can't have marital sex, isn't that a sin, to deny my husband?

Marital sex is evil?