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Originally posted by Sun_Sparkz
with regard to thinking of someone else while alone in the bathroom i think it is in a way cheating. i lived with my last boyfriend for 2 years. and in the last few months i recieved a 300 dollar phone bill (i was the payer of the phone bill).. and when i checked the last few bills and the large recent one, i discovered he had been making phone calls to some quite unsavoury (and expensive) girly lines .. and the times all co-incided with around 10 mins after i left for work each day... and i had been paying for this for 6 months totally unaware! i FELT so betrayed. it made me feel WORTHLESS and as though he didnt respect me. It ruined our sex life completely because i then felt like i wasnt enough for him, like he would prefer something else.
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Well, that's not _thinking_ of someone else. That's spending three hundred bucks (plus whatever was on the previous bills) on someone else. Last I checked, fantasizing about someone who'd say the things he wanted to hear was free...
That's also him not communicating with you that he enjoyed "unsavory" conversation, and paying good money to _avoid_ discussing that with you; for all he knew, you might've provided it for free if you knew he liked it.
The moral of the story is: if you want something bad enough, ask for it. If you get a "no," at least it's out in the open and you can talk about it, instead of getting caught with your pants down and causing major feelings of betrayal.