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Originally Posted by Aliantha
Well twice is a number of times isn't it? 
Seriously though, I think that point is central to Dana's argument - or at least, that's what I get out of her posts.
As adults posting in this thread, I think I can speak for everyone when I say that none of us would want any lasting or permanent harm to come to either of these boys.
Speaking for myself I feel very sorry for both boys and would like to see better systems in place, but then, schools already have their hands tied on what they can actually do about things like this and ultimately, we say that it's really a parents job to teach a child what the difference is between right and wrong. Clearly some parents fail, so then whose fault is it? Really?
Watching the interviews with the parents of these boys, it seems to me that none of them are particularly bright and probably don't have the best social skills themselves.
It's a sad state of affairs, but when it all comes down to it, the parents should be better guides and role models for their kids, but the truth is, sometimes they're not, so then the government should take over? We should hope the child somehow figures out where he's going wrong? What? What is the answer? |
I was addressing the "go victim!" crowd. Dana is not one of those. There is no 100% right answer, I know Ali. If the bully kid's parents/guardians fail, the teachers and admins might not be much help. Then again, a school counselor might be very effective, if the school has the funding for it
. If your kid is being bullied so horrendously, I'm sure most parents would be able to find an alternative to that school, just remove them from the situation so that they do not have turn to violence. If that is absolutely 100% not possible (which I'm unconvinced it is) and the teachers and admins are ineffective, there is probably a legal recourse, what about possibly suing the bully child's parents? Getting some sort of restraining order? Yes, even having the government step in and force the bully child/parents into counseling. I would be all for putting into place a system that makes parents get a certification for raising children, but I know that would be far too complicated to truly implement, and what would you do if a person didn't have that certification and had a child anyway? Put the child into foster? Seems a bit harsh, but maybe that is the type of system we do need to show how serious raising a child is, and thats its a privileged to be earned, not a right.