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Originally Posted by Clodfobble
Aren't these the same people who think you must marry anyone you have had sex with, regardless of any other qualities they may or may not possess? 
Here's what it really boils down to: this guy is not permanent. You know (or at least you should by now) that you will not be spending the rest of your life with him. So if keeping him around for now is fun, and is easier and causes you less stress, then do that. If getting him out of your life makes it easier to focus on your impending surgery and college plans, then do that. But whatever you decide, do it based only on what's best for you, not your mom or your sister or your (ex)boyfriend. |
These are the same people, and although I love them, I do fundamentally disagree with their relationship strategies. They think they only excuse to leave someone is abuse and that love is a choice. 1) It is not the only excuse, 2) sometimes it is, sometimes it is not the basics still have to be there. Sadly, I would already be gone if I felt like I could afford living on my own. I'm trying to get a budget together to figure out how likely that is and I am trying to find roomies I just don't want to live with a complete stranger and don't have a large pool of friends to choose from. I cannot move back in with my parents, that would be worse.
I do truly think he's a good guy, just not the one for me. We are different on an intellectual scale and maturity.