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kerosene · 12-16-2003, 05:47 PM

It sounds to me like your father holds high expectations for himself, therefore, he expects you to adhere to the same expectations. In his mind, what he has done is ideal, so any other path will be failure. You don't have to think like that. Really, don't think like that. Be confident that you are doing what is best for you and if that doesn't include having a family of 4 before the age of 20, thats okay. He could have it a lot worse, but he doesn't. You should be proud of your abilities and accomplishments, even if he doesn't recognize them. Your priorities are different from his...so what? Would he rather you NOT go to college? Or have a job? He needs to learn to appreciate your goals, but if he doesn't, you know you are doing right by yourself.

12-16-2003, 05:47 PM	#6
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	It sounds to me like your father holds high expectations for himself, therefore, he expects you to adhere to the same expectations. In his mind, what he has done is ideal, so any other path will be failure. You don't have to think like that. Really, don't think like that. Be confident that you are doing what is best for you and if that doesn't include having a family of 4 before the age of 20, thats okay. He could have it a lot worse, but he doesn't. You should be proud of your abilities and accomplishments, even if he doesn't recognize them. Your priorities are different from his...so what? Would he rather you NOT go to college? Or have a job? He needs to learn to appreciate your goals, but if he doesn't, you know you are doing right by yourself.