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Yeah. But the difference being that in the dream, she has someone telling her how it makes sense. Being able to say, "this is awful, but I understand why it had to happen" is (in my experience) a lot easier to take than "this is awful, unnecessary, and without reason."
It's a coping mechanism, yeah, but I think what's being coped with is less the death, but more the chaos of life. A parallel coping mechanism would be, "my husband died because it was God's will."
Is it a time bomb, or an unhealthy way of delaying grief? Maybe. That depends on her conviction. People all over believe all kinds of things to help them make sense of the world. The cynic in me says that the metric to measure a successful coping mechanism is: does it satisfy all the doubts, sadness, anger, etc, without causing more? does it negatively affect anyone else? can you maintain it until you die?
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