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Originally Posted by GunMaster357
I see a lot of people screaming at their kids at the beach, the mart, theater, etc... And every time, it is something like : "Keep doing that, and you'll get a spanking".
Well, after the twentieth time in as many minutes, the kid knows with certainty it'll never come. Hence the reasonning : "I can do whatever I want, I'll never be punished".
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I agree with your conclusion, but not with the reasoning.
I hear the same - with different threats - again and again and again.
But the solution is - be consistent!
You don't need to threaten violence. And certainly not deliver it.
I don't see why people think violence will always work. What? It doesn't in other parts of life, at best it diminishes and belittles people - why would you want to do that to your children?
But yeah - if you tell your child once that they will lose a toy, or not go McDonalds, or not get sweeties or whatever the bribe of the moment is... and then you say it again... and again... and again...
Nah. That's not going to work. That leads to children screaming and standing up and hitting and shouting, "Yes I will!! Yes I will!"
Now I
know about discipline:
I say to Diz, "No. You are not going to jump up there. No. I always have to get you down. No."
then
"Go on then. But I'm not going to get you down."
then
"Come on. Come on down Babba. I'll get you."
Yeah. I'd be a crummy parent.
So I know it's harder to know the rules than stick to them.
But Diz doesn't understand me.
I am not messing with his cat-brain (might is right in a cat's world).
He'll never be too big for me NOT to manhandle.
And after all, he's not really set up to affect anyone else's life.