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Sundae · 07-21-2010, 02:37 PM

Wow. Come late to this.
Assumed it was a joke thread at first.

Jim, if you're compulsively over-eating there is something in your life or in your past you are compensating for.
I agree with the suggestions other people have made, but my advice is to seek some kind of counselling AS WELL.
Knowing why you have allowed this to affect your relationship with the woman you love and the two children you adore is important in moving forwards.

I have an addictive personality. I don't mean it as an excuse because I have never become physically addicted to anything in my life. I smoked; I gave up. I drank heavily (ie at a level very dangerous to my health) I gave up. Drink I am still fighting btw, but not at the same level. But I also overeat. And I have never been able to control it, despite getting down to under 9 stone at one point (9x14 = lb).

I assume it's the lying and sneaking about that's the real issue. I felt the same betrayal when I found out an ex who claimed to have given up smoking had only actually given up in my presence. But you and Jinx are stronger than that.

I'm so sorry you are apart at the moment. It must be hurting like buggery for both of you, and your children. Much love to you all, and here's to the future.

07-21-2010, 02:37 PM	#8
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Wow. Come late to this. Assumed it was a joke thread at first. Jim, if you're compulsively over-eating there is something in your life or in your past you are compensating for. I agree with the suggestions other people have made, but my advice is to seek some kind of counselling AS WELL. Knowing why you have allowed this to affect your relationship with the woman you love and the two children you adore is important in moving forwards. I have an addictive personality. I don't mean it as an excuse because I have never become physically addicted to anything in my life. I smoked; I gave up. I drank heavily (ie at a level very dangerous to my health) I gave up. Drink I am still fighting btw, but not at the same level. But I also overeat. And I have never been able to control it, despite getting down to under 9 stone at one point (9x14 = lb). I assume it's the lying and sneaking about that's the real issue. I felt the same betrayal when I found out an ex who claimed to have given up smoking had only actually given up in my presence. But you and Jinx are stronger than that. I'm so sorry you are apart at the moment. It must be hurting like buggery for both of you, and your children. Much love to you all, and here's to the future.