My laundry system was eased by deciding to hang more stuff. Staight out of the dryer onto a hanger, much faster than folding. Of course this means that Hebe's stuff is hanging everywhere in her room, not just in her closet (the smallest in the house), but hey, it's outta the basement and outta my laundry basket...
Also, I always fold straight from the dryer -it just seems to take less time than doing it later. Unless it gets all kicked to shit on my bedroom floor before it gets put away, but at least my end of the deal is done
totally feel for you clod, answer is to learn to care less about the state of the place and the clothes. hard, but not impossible.
Of course I may have gone a little too far in that direction.....