[monster]

I was a step-child. I didn't like most of my step-parents, but I didn't hate them. Thing is, I was older and was so alienated from my parents by the time they finally split up and remarried that I probably didn't like them any less than my bio parents.

My younger sister played the steps off agaianst the bios, I didn't, but I sure as hell wouldn't take any rules the steps laid down if they were stricter than the bios.

What they did wrong:

1) try to impose their morality/religion on me. My stepmom believed a woman's place was in the kitchen. She never wore trousers, lerned to drive or pick up a screwdriver -those were man things.
2) not be interested in us and what we did, what we really cared about -just in what we did that pleased our bio parent
3) Show prefeenceto their bio children. OF COURSE you love them more. It's natural. But it still fucking hurts to feel second class. Especially when out bio is fawning all over their offspring...


What they did right
1) realize from the start that I'm not touchy-feely/huggy-kissy and not try to force that oneme as so many steps of my peers did.
2) Not try to buy us.