We're back. We did the whole thing but didn't stay too long at the lunch. No I didn't really know anyone except Fred's mom and his dad's partner who I met once and who was weeping a lot and surrounded by her relatives. But Thor made the decision to go to all the parts to be there for his friend. Who could've cared less, to be honest. I think it's really too early for it to have sunk in for him yet, and it's been coming for more than two years, plus he's an only kid and loves to be the center of attention. but maybe, later, when he needs a friend to tal k to, it will help that Thor was there. A couple of other kids were at the service, but not the burial or lunch. Kids just wore regular clothes -Fred was in a comic strip t-shirt and shorts. Not all adults wore black but most did.
Yes, it was open casket at the visitation beforehand, but not during the funeral. Which was 90 minutes long and included a full communion. Then we joined the processin to the cemetary, during which I got a nosebleed -and I was driving the stick-shift car -plus being a funeral procession, we blew through all the red lights, so no stopping opportunity to grab more kleenex...
Cemetary was brief, Fred's dad's partner was pretty emotional, Fred's mom was somewhat inappropriately dressed in a mini cocktail dress with ladders in the tights. I guess it was hard for there being there on the row behind Fred who was being cuddled by his dad's partner and her family.
And it was hot. Hoping to go to the pool in a mo, but apparently the power is out and likely to stay that way until Monday. I hear we may have found a generator.