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Cloud · 06-18-2010, 10:16 PM

Here are my opinions: It would not be considered unusual for you and your son to go to the church memorial service. You can skip the actual internment if you like. If you're not close, you don't have to go, but it would probably be nice. Sending condolence cards, flowers, or a monetary gift to cancer fund or something similar is good etiquette.

Most likely it will be closed casket. You do not have to wear black--anything reasonably conservative and respectful will do.

Your son's friend may not even notice your appearance at all--he'll likely be too busy with his grief and with his family. Being "there for him" afterwards would probably go further to help him.

And Thor might very well be scared of you dying, or of dying, period. I know I am. Discussion and love are merited here.

06-18-2010, 10:16 PM	#3
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	Here are my opinions: It would not be considered unusual for you and your son to go to the church memorial service. You can skip the actual internment if you like. If you're not close, you don't have to go, but it would probably be nice. Sending condolence cards, flowers, or a monetary gift to cancer fund or something similar is good etiquette. Most likely it will be closed casket. You do not have to wear black--anything reasonably conservative and respectful will do. Your son's friend may not even notice your appearance at all--he'll likely be too busy with his grief and with his family. Being "there for him" afterwards would probably go further to help him. And Thor might very well be scared of you dying, or of dying, period. I know I am. Discussion and love are merited here. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"