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I find it a little hard to believe that everything is so black and white on an older generation thinking one way and a younger generation thinking another way. What would've been more interesting to ask is what they would've said a year ago, 5 years ago, and 20 years ago (obviously this one is for the middle aged and older generations). This would help see if they have held the same values, if they have changed, if they have become more dependent/independent, stayed the same, or a combination of these.
If you had asked me 5 years ago, I would've been of the view of work it out until you just can't take the relationship anymore. Now I am more likely to say, talk it over with your partner, and if doesn't get resolved, ask yourself if you are staying in the relationship for the sake of a relationship? Does your heart yearn for something else but you hold back because of the relationship? It's likely to turn into resentment and a worse relationship later on. This isn't necessarily a happier with her or happier alone question, but more of a what do you want out of life question. The answer could lead to staying with her, being with someone else, being alone, or something else entirely.
And in case there is any curiousity, I'm 29, single, and looking for a relationship (and not having any luck which is both aggravating yet at the same time yeah, whatever, their loss, I'm doing fine on my own).
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