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Originally Posted by Cloud
some things surprised me during this process. I found I had to grope for words that meant what I wanted them to mean. "Singledom," "intellectuality," and the like are maybe made up. I came up with "serenity" finally after using "peace" and a bunch of other stuff.
I was surprised that being single was one of my basic sub-values, and not just a result of them.
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Just on the face of it, I find "singledom" hard to integrate with "family" kind of values. Is there not a conflict here?
Then too, I do have a happy marriage, and value that. It ain't just the regular sex and the warm bed and the predawn snuggles; there's fulfilment in a good partnership. Some people have a very hard time finding a good partner, and others are simply awful partners themselves, incapable of a good marriage and with no business trying it.
Of the Heinleinian-style virtues, competence either makes independence, or
is independence. Not sure which, nor sure I should be concerned, when there is the doing of it to be doing.