[piercehawkeye45]

For 99% of people I would agree with you Jinx but, not to be difficult, this guy does not act like anyone I have ever met before. Most people I can figure out why they do stuff and this guy leaves me, and all my other friends, in the dark.

First, he is very good at owning up with apologies if he realizes he does something wrong. If you yell at him for doing something stupid he will apologize for it even if he is not fully convinced he is wrong. The problem I have with him is that he will continue to do whatever he did and becomes a cycle of apologies and nothing being learned. This could be seen as manipulation but he only pushes people away by doing this so if it is purposeful, I do not see the logic behind it.

Two, he never really argues against our accusations or tries to defend himself. He, at least outwardly, seems to take our word over what he thinks he remembers.

Of course, he could be trying to manipulate us but then he would be the worst manipulator in the world since none of us give a shit about his intentions and focus on actions.


You may still be right Jinx but based on this individual situation, I disagree. Every other time I have heard the "I don't remember" line I don't change my stance. I then tell them to not drink as much.


But, as an update, I chewed him out for about 30 minutes this morning about him being an asshole to people. He sent a mass text out saying that he is sorry if he hurt anyone and that he realizes he has a problem. I've seen him do the mass apology thing but never seen him say he has a problem this openly. Still, I'm going to take everything he says with a grain of salt until I actually see his actions change and even then, I'm not planning on living with him next year.


Oh, and just as heads up. Even if I defend myself against a point doesn't mean I shoot it down altogether. Much of the advice I have gotten I have integrated into what I actually did or plan to do. I don't mean to come off as shooting down everyone's advice or thinking my situation is so much different then everyone else's because I do not actually act in that way. I want to thank everyone for the input so far. It has helped greatly even if I have not shown it.