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Originally posted by Kitsune
Perth -- the whole make-up thing is disturbing, and the only reason I can think that open viewings are done is to confirm to everyone that the person is, indeed, truly gone. I never understood people treating the deceased as the person that once was. To me, that isn't them, anymore.
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Yeah, I think thats my problem with it. I would have preferred to remember her as being full of life, and a lot of fun to be around.
Thing is, my father tried to dominate all the planning, and he made a string of horrible decisions about the arrangements. I finally had to step in, because I was the only person she had ever discussed death with. I had to put my foot down and insist that she be cremated, insist that the word "Angel" not be put on any memorials for her, as well as a couple other things that she had told me she wanted in the event of her death. It was really hard, and divisive at a time when the last thing we needed was conflict, but I had a duty to her. Moral of the story: Make for damn sure the people who will be planning your funeral know what you want. It's inevitable that things won't go exactly the way you wish, but you can at least clear a lot of stuff up.