[lumberjim]

yeah, it is a bullshit question. I wasn't throwing omiss under the bus, just reminding her to consider what events or atmosphere may have contributed to the choices he has made. I'll tell you that the reason it occured to me (other than my wife the lurker saying something about it) was that she would call her son an idiot in a public way like that.

i do have some personal exp with this topic....my sister moved to s dakota with a pagan(biker gang) when she was 17......it was resultant of the divorce of my parents, and my fathers dumping on her constantly...among other things. I think olemiss is doing the right thing now, i am just wondering about the motive.....is it tough love or is it just easier to wash her hands of it?

just asking questions.....not in a position to judge