[OnyxCougar]

Originally posted by lumberjim

What did you do to your son in his earlier teen years to make this walking fireplug and her transient lifestyle seem attractive?

Come on, Jim, isn't that sort of a bullshit question? Blaming the parent for the child's mistakes? My parents were hard workers, I never wanted for anything, and they tried to instill morals and ethics into me. So of course, I "rebel" against them and go get knocked up at 16 with a murderer. (Granted, I didn't know he was gonna be a murderer, but still.) It's nothing my parents did, it was me being a dumb ass.

That's like asking the parents of any teen that shoots at his/her classmates, "What did you do to them to make them killers?" Oftentimes, they didn't do anything "to" them. Many times, they were hard working, loving parents.

Through the decades, in America, children have rebelled against the parents. In the 50's it was rock and roll. In the 60's and 70's it was make love not war. The habit of blaming your parents for everything wrong in your life started in the 80's (Wolf would probably have a way better take on this than me.) and continued into the 90's. That turned into "I'm gonna call CPS on you if you hit me/make me do my homework/make me eat broccoli." And they did. And then CPS got overzealous and we have a whole new generation of kids that run rampant and there is little you can do to stop a headstrong kid from making mistakes now.

Now I'm not saying bad people are never the parents' fault. But I am saying that bad people don't always have bad parents.

I don't know ThisOleMiss either, but from her posts, I think she raised this child well, and he is either rebelling against her, or is experimenting with a new lifestyle because he never was in a position of being able to be with mentally ill tattooed women with transient mothers. Now he's over 18 and can make his own stupid decisions (instead of being forced into the better choices by his parent). And here we are.