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Originally posted by tonksy
i don't think her tattoos or her black hair make her an outcast from society, seeing as how i have both and fit in fine. i think it is her mental problems and her apparent lack of drive or work ethic. what a sponge. there have been times when i have had to ask for financial help from mom, but i never expected it. in the long run if you are an adult you are responsible for yourself. i don't think you owe them a thing. in fact, i whole heartedly agree with the way you handled the situation....even if it saddens me the way people label others.....yes, i understand that stereotypes are mostly true or they wouldn't exist but some people deserve the benfit of the doubt....just not this girl and her mom based on the way they expect you to bail them out. my thoughts are with you and your son. 
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Of all the places I worked, only ONE was ok with visible tattoos and "hairstyles that are viewed as unprofessional". In fact in one of the places I got asked to keep my hair trimmed better (I used to keep my hair relativly long, as in think 60s, out of lazyness).
Is it right to do that? No certainly. Wearing business atire didn't make me any smarter, just hot and uncomfortable in the summer. Yet it's the way of the world to judge people by the way they look and hire people based on that judgment.
It's just a fact of life that people are generaly of negative predesposition to anyone who looks like someone out of a Manson clip. (for the record, I do like Manson).
The decision to wear these clothing is made on the desire to fit into the counter culture instead of the main stream. Thats what I was refering to, thats what makes her an outcast.
I'm not saying one should embrace the main stream culture, pop in some Brittney CDs and drive their econobox to their corporate drone job. But a decision to NOT do that is one you make conciously and have to live with.