Seems like every personal conversation with Mum leads to disagreement with someone else
Great chat today. Intimate, understanding, accepting.
Except it turns out Dad has been complaining about me to Mum.
Partly, this doesn't surprise me. In that he is even more non-confrontational than I am. He is actually in the negative range when it comes to confronting people. He would slit his own wrists (if it wasn't a sin) rather than tell someone else they had wronged him.
But it's hard to hear that you've annoyed/ upset/ angered your Dad
after the fact.
I used to hate Mum for this, but these days I mostly understand where she is coming from. Why should she be the one in the middle? Why should she listen to his complaints and not pass them on?
Apparently, I have been profligate in my use of electricity.
This doesn't just hurt because it's Dad moaning (although that hurts enough)
This rankles because I am - probably - the most energy aware person in this house.
Therefore it drives me round the bend that he can have an issue with me pausing something on SkyPlus (a bit like TiVo I think) while I check something out with Mum.
Now I am living here at my parents' behest. I am damned lucky that they let me stay, and I honestly do appreciate it. Really - it was always my nightmare, my ultimate shame to have to move back here. They have made it something I can both enjoy and accept. These are good people.
BUT. It bugs me that Dads brings up things that upset both Mum (because she's in the middle) and me (who they are aimed at) and they are nonsense. I
could be more energy efficient. But really - not much more. If you take reasonable energy efficiency (normal, every day) as 100%, I am 75%, Dad is about 35%.
Meh.
I need to move out.
Just annoys me a bit.
No-one likes to be judged on something the judge isn't working on themself.