The Cellar - View Single Post - Please excuse my emotional distance this week

xoxoxoBruce · 10-12-2003, 11:41 AM

I see a familiar pattern. Because you love someone you do everything you can for them. Everything you can think of to make them happy, safe and comfortable. You do it because you feel it's the right thing and just a natural way of showing your love.
But the one that loves the least, controls the relationship.
So when the one you've given your all to, rejects you and walks away from the relationship, you're angry. You accuse them of using you all along and that may not be true. Were they deceitful by accepting your efforts that you gave so willingly? By allowing you to do things they didn't ask for? After years of you giving are they so accustomed to it they take it for granted? I guess the answers have to be answered on a case by case basis and nobody can do it for your case, but you. I only caution to be honest with yourself and not shoot yourself in the foot.

10-12-2003, 11:41 AM	#122
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	I see a familiar pattern. Because you love someone you do everything you can for them. Everything you can think of to make them happy, safe and comfortable. You do it because you feel it's the right thing and just a natural way of showing your love. But the one that loves the least, controls the relationship. So when the one you've given your all to, rejects you and walks away from the relationship, you're angry. You accuse them of using you all along and that may not be true. Were they deceitful by accepting your efforts that you gave so willingly? By allowing you to do things they didn't ask for? After years of you giving are they so accustomed to it they take it for granted? I guess the answers have to be answered on a case by case basis and nobody can do it for your case, but you. I only caution to be honest with yourself and not shoot yourself in the foot. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.