[DanaC]

I guess they can at that Ali. But hey...once bitten right?


I also am sure that this stuff doesn't represent the entirety of their scene. But it's distasteful enough to me that I have no desire to stick around. Insults and shitflinging I can live with; the stuff that went on between our two sites at least had a kind of logic to it. It was personal .. and personal sometimes does get nasty. But I cannot see any justification for attacks on dating chatrooms. It says to me that they think extraordinarily highly of themselves, whilst holding a very low and patronising view of the people in those chat rooms. The bombing raid Tggr did here, I thought was a) fair enough given what had been going on, and b) actually quite witty. But I am deeply uncomfortable about people going into a dating chatroom solely to cause trouble and then return in triumph and hold up those chatters as objects of ridicule and disdain, which is essentially the core of that act. It suggests a particularly unpleasant brand of arrogance to me. I want no part of it. And I want no part of any community that would condone or glorify it.

And as for what went on in the sex chat rooms: If any dwellar was to go into one of those rooms and post the kind of vile, misogynistic venom that i saw in that thread, I would feel genuine shame for our community. Disgraceful. Absolutely disgraceful

That's not a condemnation of all individual PDers. It really isn't. They're just people, good and bad. But I condemn the culture that finds that in any way acceptable.