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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce
... the woman refused, so the only way your mum could let you know she was trying to help, trying to do a good thing, was to tell you she refused.
But telling you that, might have caused you to ask the woman why and your Mum knowing what the woman would say, decided it would be better hearing it from her.
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Mum could quite easily have backed off telling me the why is so much detail. In fact she could just have said D doesn't let any of her family sign passports and left it at that. Or she could have left it at the fact that D thinks my reasons for going to Amsterdam are suspect. She really didn't have to go into the fact that D thinks I am faking depression and drag things like my hair colour and weight loss into it.
I backed off on the accusations I made, because as I said it was the hurt talking.
However I do get every day a comment about my hair. Or her wishing she could get me a volunteer job. Or asking whether I have heard from the council re housing. So I made unfair assumptions, but it didn't come completely out of left field.
Also this isn't a one-off. Throughout my life, Mum has seen fit to tell me negative things people said about me. Or add a negative spin to positive things. I know it's her brand of tough love, her way of keeping me in line so I have an easier life. But all it does is knock me back, affect my self esteem and upset me.
Which makes it harder to deal with rather than easier.
But as I'm an adult now I can express myself and vent my anger and hopefully bounce back quicker. That's why I appreciate this place so much.
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Originally Posted by DanaC
If you want to post it to me, I may be able to sign it for you.
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I've checked the details and you can sign for me! Yay! Thanks hon.
I have to get the money together still - I'm in very early planning stage at present. But it helps to know there is another option.