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hot_pastrami · 10-07-2003, 12:18 PM

"Success" is defined by the original goal. So to guage if a relationship is successful, it depends entirely on what one wanted to get out of it. If one enters a relationship not knowing what they want to get out of it, then it would proabbly be best guaged by what that person wants out of life itself. Of course the goal can change over the course of the relationship.

Also, success is an incremental measure, things tend to be successful in varying degrees. If you get dumped by someone, but you took something good from the experience, then it is partially successsful. If you both leave the relationship willingly, as mutual frends, I'd call that successful. But that's was how I approached relationships, looking only to have some fun, get to know somebody better, make someone genuinely happy, and learn some things about life. In that sense, every relationship I've had has been successful to some degree. Depending on where the relationship went, I'd upgrade my goals appropriately.

The grand success is the sustained relationship, with both parties putting in effort, and the happiness, love, and individual self-worth far outweigh the pain, sadness, and anger. That's my opinion, anyway.

There. That's my pompous, like-to-hear-myself-type response. I wish I had a monocle.

10-07-2003, 12:18 PM	#4
hot_pastrami I am meaty Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 1,119	"Success" is defined by the original goal. So to guage if a relationship is successful, it depends entirely on what one wanted to get out of it. If one enters a relationship not knowing what they want to get out of it, then it would proabbly be best guaged by what that person wants out of life itself. Of course the goal can change over the course of the relationship. Also, success is an incremental measure, things tend to be successful in varying degrees. If you get dumped by someone, but you took something good from the experience, then it is partially successsful. If you both leave the relationship willingly, as mutual frends, I'd call that successful. But that's was how I approached relationships, looking only to have some fun, get to know somebody better, make someone genuinely happy, and learn some things about life. In that sense, every relationship I've had has been successful to some degree. Depending on where the relationship went, I'd upgrade my goals appropriately. The grand success is the sustained relationship, with both parties putting in effort, and the happiness, love, and individual self-worth far outweigh the pain, sadness, and anger. That's my opinion, anyway. There. That's my pompous, like-to-hear-myself-type response. I wish I had a monocle. __________________ Hot Pastrami!