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No majik bullet for that...
My tips from experience:
Don't look past today - don't think about the future. No one likes uncertainty so why dwell on it.
Don't take it personally - no one is perfect so its not helpful to think its happening because of something you did. Doing those same things in another context could be fine - its not you or someone else - its the relationship.
Look at the bright side - it ain't working so you'll be better off. But, for reasons I cannot guess, shedding one's self of a bad relationship hurts more than being in one. Just a curse of the human condition, I suppose. Sort of like a bad wisdom tooth - it hurts but yanking it out hurts more but that pain stops in a couple days and no one doubts that you are better off.
Hug your dog. We could learn a lot from a dog.
Tomorrow it won't hurt as bad. And the next day and the next. Don't look ahead, and don't fight it - let it flow through. Best to face it now 'cause undealt with emotions are probably the biggest cause of unhappiness I can think of. Just face it and get it over with - denial seems, on the surface, to be an act of strength but its really not (cowardice is too strong a word).
If anything in here seems to look like I'm characterizing you - its not - - these are the general ramblings of someone who has had to deal with this crap in the past and who is 50 times better off now. Hopefully, you will too.
Good luck! [Urge to attach dumb, patronizing smiley successfully resisted]
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