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Originally posted by Whit
Yeah, I tried that a while back and it worked for a while. She entered therapy and everything. She's since dropped it and returned to the emotional downward spiral. Even gotten engaged to a guy that treats her like shit and her son hates.
I guess more info is in order. "She" is my daughters mom and I've been raising her son since he was four, he's ten now. I'm the one he turns to for help, I'm the one he chose to help guide him through his young life.
I'd be happier if I never had to see her agian, but with the kids that's not how it works. I bear her no ill will, I really wish her the best, just don't want to be there for it. The kids though, I have a responsibility to them and I love them too dearly to let my feelings get in the way of the job of being 'Dad.'
The bright side is that the worse she gets, the more I get the kids. Sadly, I'm not a big enough bastard to push my advantage. I'd much rather they have a healthy, loving relationship with their mom. The problem is trying to help her from a distance.
For the record, if I post it then you are free to respond to it. It would be stupid to post and not want a response, so fire away.
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Again - wowsers. Its good that you are not a bastard and it is good that you want to help your kids have a normal stable family life. However, since it has been mentioned to her before, it seems like the downward spiral is going to continue until she decides she wants out of it. All I can suggest is keep being the fine upstanding father that you are and offer her support from a distance and when she does try and get out of her funk, send her even more support. Thats my opinion.