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Originally Posted by Tiki
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OK, well I'll try and be as gentle as I can with it because I don't want you to feel persecuted in any way. In fact, I hope you feel welcome here and enjoy the community because it has a lot to offer, and there are some amazing people here, which leads me to my point. Because of the unique nature of this forum, a lot of people have been here for many many years. This of course you already know. There are always going to be disputes between long standing members, and also between newer members. That's always been part of the allure for me personally. That people here can discuss an issue and have a differing view, but not resort to personal attacks (in general).
The problem you have as a new poster is not knowing the history of the older members, and I think that some of the older members could benefit from remembering that too. It's not always easy to find your place here. God knows it's taken me some time, and I've definitely had my ups and downs, with some of the same people you're currently at logger heads with, but the thing that is best to keep in mind is that the older members probably aren't going to go away or change for your benefit, and I'd say most of the forum wouldn't want them to. What I'm getting at is that you need to try and find the positive things, even about the people that annoy you, or you'll have a very bad time here, and none of us wants to see that happen. We'd all love to see you have a positive experience here, but it doesn't seem like that's what you're having lately.
The best advice I have for you, and that which I've learned from personal experience, is that the status quo is not going to change for your benefit no matter how much you fight for it. It might sound harsh, but unless you can find a way to reconcile yourself to those you don't particularly like or find amusing even, you're not going to have a very good time here, and I'd ask why you'd bother if that is the case.
Just try and be a bit more gentle on yourself and on others. We all want to like you, so why not let us?