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Old 05-16-2009, 05:12 PM   #4018
monster
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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl View Post
She said, "I don't know why you do it either. All I know is it makes us not like you."
This effectively ended the conversation.
I've been hearing this all my life - "I can't love you if", "I don't like you when" etc etc.
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next time, don't let it end the conversation. Next time tell her "I don't like myself either when I drink". Tell her what you're telling us. If you can't say it, write it down and mail her a letter. tell her "It's hard for a person to love themselves when they feel their parent's love is conditional" Tell her you want to be the person she likes all the time, but if she wants that too, she must support you in the way that helps you, not necessarily the way she feels is appropriate.

it really seems like you two could benefit from going to some counselling together.....

Do you recall a specific incident that caused this minor puncture in the wagon wheel?
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