[OnyxCougar]

I agree with Dani. If my husband at the time had been more supportive and helped me through it, I'm sure it would have been much easier for me to deal with the whole thing. Instead, I was told curtly to "move on" and "I don't understand why this is such a big deal to you."

Well, it wasn't his job to understand why it's a big deal to me, just that it WAS a big deal, and it was his job, as my (loving) husband to care about me enough to just listen. I had no friends at the time, and he didn't want to hear it.

So I would say, if you have a close friend/spose/S.O. that is having some sort of meltdown, the BEST thing is to understand that it's ok not to know why they are melting down, just that they ARE, and be there for them, just to listen (not to SOLVE the problem, just listen to it and be supportive). Extra hugs or cuddles is good (if we're talking about a female and she appreciates that sort of thing), or maybe just going out for a beer or something.