[Whit]

      I've been friends with chics like that. Personally I don't care to be anything other than a friend 'cause once those chics have had a dude, they don't want him anymore. Which works out well since the dude's are already looking for the next chic like that.
      Anyway, it's my belief that the blackhole effect you describe is caused by the person basing their own view of themselves on other peoples apparent view of them. They can't be desirable unless all the guys want them, they can't be smart unless everyone says so, and so on. They're actually fun to watch a lot of the time.
      The male variety is not much different, except most act tough instead of simper. They have to act tough to be secure in their masculinity. It's really fun to watch the look on their faces when they try to stare you down and you burst out laughing. Good stuff, doesn't lead to the physical confrontation you might expect either.
      As to your LB questions, as I've officially made peace I won't be involved in that part of the discussion as anything said, either way, could come across as insulting.