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Originally Posted by classicman
I wonder if she would still consider you a friend after the fucking crap you posted here about her.
That is all.
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Not fair. We all of us clash from time to time with friends, especially, if they are housemates. There must be a place to vent without hurting them. Why the fuck shouldn't Tiki talk about her here? It doesn't reflect badly on their friendship at all. When I lived with my mum after J and I split, she drove me to distraction. I am a very solitary person and I don't do chit chat unless I am 'socialising'. When it got too much I would rant about her to my best friend. I was being unfair about her in some ways, but not in others. I was likely as frustrating to be around, if not more so. My spouting annoyance about Ma didnt mean I'd changed how I felt about her. It's just offloading.
Tiki: clearly the only way for you to deal with this is, as you said, find a more concrete way of marking out your silent space. A room with a lockable door seems a bloody good idea. Might I also suggest that when she shouts something from another room, you just ignore it. If it truly is important, she'll surely come find you in the office. If it's just more random stuff she's not so likely to make a journey to say it ( I assume?).
[eta} went back and edited this staright after posting. Part of it had been rendered obsolete. I hadn't read the last 2 pages and was unaware that peace had broken out.