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*Frowns* Ach V, I'm so sorry mate. You'll get through it. I know that sounds like so much trite nonsense, but you will. Undertoad's right: don;t focus on the overwhelming whole. Just go day to day. It isn't the end of the world. It feels like it, but it isnt. It probably feels like it should be.
Keep talking to your friends. Try not to seek meaning in what's going on. There isn't any. It's just life and where you are at. You won't be there forever. It isn't success or failure, it's just life.
The trick now, V, is to try and get through it without hurting each other too much, and without burning bridges of friendship for the future. You have children together, therefore this will not be a complete break. That makes it tougher in some ways, but it also means you're more likely to stay in each others' lives long term. That is an opportunity for a continued friendship if you are both able to take it. Be careful with each other during these early days.
Obviously, V, I don't know truly where you're at. When me and J split, there werent kids to think about. But it was worth the effort of being careful to be able to pick the friendship back up after the dust had settled. It doesn't have to mean a complete loss. You don't lose each other you just change what you mean to each other. That change will happen naturally, but it's up to both of you if you want to guide it to something positive and valuable.
I may have said too much here. It maybe too soon to hear this. If so I'm sorry. And good luck. You'll be ok.
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