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Shawnee123 · 01-07-2009, 07:06 AM

People are going to do what they want to do. You can hope your partner makes the "good" choices but in the end no amount of insecurity, admonishing, begging, ultimating (I think I made up that word) or coercing will really change someone.

All a person can do in a relationship is hope that your common goals and interests win out. Obviously, each individual needs to decide what they can deal with and what they can't.

I used to say you can't tell anyone what to do or how to be. I mean you can, and they might fall into your line, but one day your intentions will be questioned and resented. It might take two weeks, it might take 20 years. People have to decide on their own what path to take.

If he chooses you, and you have no real reason to doubt him, you have to let go of jealousy. Jealousy will kill a relationship quickly, and cause you tons of unneeded pain in the process. It's a hurtful emotion to feel and to be the subject of.

Just enjoy the love you have. That's the best any of us can do.

01-07-2009, 07:06 AM	#5
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	People are going to do what they want to do. You can hope your partner makes the "good" choices but in the end no amount of insecurity, admonishing, begging, ultimating (I think I made up that word) or coercing will really change someone. All a person can do in a relationship is hope that your common goals and interests win out. Obviously, each individual needs to decide what they can deal with and what they can't. I used to say you can't tell anyone what to do or how to be. I mean you can, and they might fall into your line, but one day your intentions will be questioned and resented. It might take two weeks, it might take 20 years. People have to decide on their own what path to take. If he chooses you, and you have no real reason to doubt him, you have to let go of jealousy. Jealousy will kill a relationship quickly, and cause you tons of unneeded pain in the process. It's a hurtful emotion to feel and to be the subject of. Just enjoy the love you have. That's the best any of us can do.