[classicman]

I'm still not sure though what she wants from them. What does "support" mean? Perhaps she is seeing them more as the people they are and realizing they are not who she thought they were. I dunno what she really wants and maybe they don't either. Does she want a hug every time she comes home? Does she want to chitchat with them? It all seems really unclear to me. Things change when a child moves out - perhaps she should try that again. Most parents do NOT treat all their children the same as their children are different and have different needs.