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I never said I don't have a relationship with them. Its good as far as relationships with parents go I think. I'm just sayin although they might try to do what is best for me, and think they are. Proof is that they don't as often as they think. I precisely don't tell them aspects of my life because I know they wouldn't understand, and it would just make them resent me more. The facts are tho: I've been financially responsible since 18, and personally responsible my whole life (never did hard core drugs, A's pretty much all thru school, never any trouble with the law ect ect). I do give my parents credit for helping me along, but I overcame a lot despite them as well. I'm tryin hard to become a success at something or other. To me that should be enuf for my parents, although I should not have to earn their love, I have done more than most children to do so, and to keep it. Right now I do need my parents support in order to reach my goals, and yes I think they owe it to me to try to do everything in their power to help me reach those goals.

Once you have child, they are always your child. You have to treat them as an adult eventually, yes, but your responsibility to them never ends. They are in this world because of you. They are who they are a good chunk because of you. Genetically and conditionally. Therefore, you have the responsibility to try to help them succeed.*
To me a big chunk of that means: achieve personal happiness. Why would this responsibility end at 18? Their life journey is nowhere near its end, you set them on that path, you're their guide. If you don't understand their "gayness," then maybe you should pull your nose out of "the good book" and research it some.
If they turn into an irresponsible, ungrateful, idiotic adult, yes that is partially to blame on you. You fucked 'em up or allowed 'em to fuck up, you gonna just walk away from that and say "Hey not my problem anymore, they're over 18."?



*Definition for those of ya'll who don't seem to be able to look past the monetary meaning of that word:
suc⋅ceed
   /səkˈsid/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [suhk-seed] Show IPA Pronunciation
–verb (used without object)
1. to happen or terminate according to desire; turn out successfully; have the desired result: Our efforts succeeded.
2. to thrive, prosper, grow, or the like: Grass will not succeed in this dry soil.
3. to accomplish what is attempted or intended: We succeeded in our efforts to start the car.
4. to attain success in some popularly recognized form, as wealth or standing: The class voted him the one most likely to succeed.
5. to follow or replace another by descent, election, appointment, etc. (often fol. by to).
6. to come next after something else in an order or series.
–verb (used with object)
7. to come after and take the place of, as in an office or estate.
8. to come next after in an order or series, or in the course of events; follow.