for Cicero. Don't be harsh on yourself for the fact that this has spun you out some. That is only to be expected.
If it weren't for the medical appointments I'd say hit the road within a week. Regardless of timing, I think heading back to your family is the best plan. It'll give you a few months to stabilise, take stock, think about what you want to do next. Best wishes for you.
Dana: do not feel bad about shouting at your mum. You probably saved her from losing her hand, if not worse.