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Originally posted by 99 44/100% pure
Hmmm . . . I think I would have gone ahead and invited the grandparents -- it's hot_pastrami and his bride's wedding day, not his parents' vacation, even if they'd like it to be. Regardless of who's footing the bill (and it sounds like the bride and groom are), the couple get to decide who'll be there, or, at the very least, who is invited.
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Like I said, if somebody (in this case my parents) want to be too nasty and self-absorbed to be happy for us, fuck 'em with a capital Fuck. It's just a real eye-opener to see what they're like under the circumsances. They haven't been asked for a dime, and they haven't helped in the planning or anything. They're just peppering us with petty bullshit based on what
they want. Frankly, my plan is that if they don't ease up on it, I'll just suggest that they don't come. That will either piss them off royally, or make them realize they're being assholes about unimportant stuff during what's supposed to be the happiest time in my life. Either way at least they'd be out of my hair.
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Originally posted by 99 44/100% pure
Hope the parents don't have this much say over other aspects of this marriage, like how many kids to have, and when.
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Absolutely not. I respect their feelings to a degree, but they have
zero say-so in important matters, and only marginal consideration in everything else. I am sickened by people who allow themselves to be coerced or bullied by parents to that degree. They are still my parents, and I respect their opinions, but damned if I'll let them run my life. This is indicated by the fact that me and my wife-to-be have been living together despite my mother urging to the contrary when we first moved in to the new place. It's our life to live, despite what she thinks we ought to do.
We almost eloped a couple months ago, but Britt was too worried that her mother would feel hurt... which I understand, Britt is an only child and her mom was a single mother, so the two of them had only each other for like fifteen years of their lives. But the ugliness surfacing now makes me wish we'd just done it then, and not have to deal with family issues. Oh well, such is life.
I think the wedding will be cool though... we have a pretty nice little chapel reserved, and it'll be low-key and straightforward. I'm excited.