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hot_pastrami · 07-30-2003, 11:59 AM

Well, I'm getting married three weeks from this Friday, less than a month from now. I'm so mellow about it that it's scary... I figured I'd be a wreck at this stage. Surprisingly, things are pretty much under control at present... I made a big to-do list and we're getting through everything at the rate that we need to, doing pretty much everything ourselves. We made our own inviations and everything.

I knew in advance from having many friends get married that seemingly without exception, somebody, a friend or family member, is going to be a problem. They'll get all upset about stupid things and burn a few ulcers in the stomach linings of the bride and groom. The surpise for me was when the pains-in-the-ass turned out to be my parents. They've always been great and supportive about things my whole life, but lately they've been difficult and unreasonable. Maybe they don't care for the woman I've chosen to marry (which is hard to beleive, she's wonderful), but frankly I don't care if they don't like her. I want support, not approval, damnit. It's very telling that they're being selfish and nasty at a time when I most need them to be supportive.

I think Britt and I are doing a lot of things right with this wedding, though. We have both learned much through the amazing power of counter-example. We're getting married Friday the 22nd at a small, close-family-and-friends-only ceremony in Vegas, then we have a dinner at a restaurant with the whole group. Then the next day we fly out to go honeymooning for a week, then we return and have the wedding reception a few days later at our (very roomy) house. Helps spread things out to reduce stress a little.

Unfortunately our parents don't have a lot of money, so I'm basically paying for everything. Oh well, that's what credit cards are for, right? Heheh. Hopefully my old house will sell soon, there's been a lot of interest in it llately.

Incidentally, anyone who wants to make the trek to Utah is welcome at our reception! (awkward silence). (cough).

Yeah.

07-30-2003, 11:59 AM	#1
hot_pastrami I am meaty Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Salt Lake City, UT Posts: 1,119	Wedding day coming up... Well, I'm getting married three weeks from this Friday, less than a month from now. I'm so mellow about it that it's scary... I figured I'd be a wreck at this stage. Surprisingly, things are pretty much under control at present... I made a big to-do list and we're getting through everything at the rate that we need to, doing pretty much everything ourselves. We made our own inviations and everything. I knew in advance from having many friends get married that seemingly without exception, somebody, a friend or family member, is going to be a problem. They'll get all upset about stupid things and burn a few ulcers in the stomach linings of the bride and groom. The surpise for me was when the pains-in-the-ass turned out to be my parents. They've always been great and supportive about things my whole life, but lately they've been difficult and unreasonable. Maybe they don't care for the woman I've chosen to marry (which is hard to beleive, she's wonderful), but frankly I don't care if they don't like her. I want support, not approval, damnit. It's very telling that they're being selfish and nasty at a time when I most need them to be supportive. I think Britt and I are doing a lot of things right with this wedding, though. We have both learned much through the amazing power of counter-example. We're getting married Friday the 22nd at a small, close-family-and-friends-only ceremony in Vegas, then we have a dinner at a restaurant with the whole group. Then the next day we fly out to go honeymooning for a week, then we return and have the wedding reception a few days later at our (very roomy) house. Helps spread things out to reduce stress a little. Unfortunately our parents don't have a lot of money, so I'm basically paying for everything. Oh well, that's what credit cards are for, right? Heheh. Hopefully my old house will sell soon, there's been a lot of interest in it llately. Incidentally, anyone who wants to make the trek to Utah is welcome at our reception! (awkward silence). (cough). Yeah. __________________ Hot Pastrami!